Pay It Forward: Join the Compliment Chain!

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{Find a typo, get a compliment: so far, one found, fixed, and the gentle reader complimented!}

The best gifts are kindness and empathy, given to myself or others. I want to use those gifts to Pay it Forward this holiday season with compliments, or “shout outs,” as Rosebud’s K class calls them.

We all need to hear nice things about our inner selves. A compliment like, “You look like you’re feeling better…” rings false because I know how much I’m fakin’ it to look put together on the days I try. Hence the hashtags #invisibleillness. and #butyoudon’tlooksick.

Spoonies, aka chronic pain peeps, need compliments on things we have done or are trying to do; to be recognized for who we are separate from the pain we are in; and to know that we’re seen/heard in spite of our #fibrowarrior difficulties.

I collect particularly nice words that are gifted to me. I’ll share them below, and also give a shout out to some of the people who have gone out of their way to help me in New Orleans or afar. They have taken care of me and encouraged me to join the very supportive, motivated fibromyalgia community. Please pay it forward by complimenting someone, be it on my blog/FB/Insta comments, or in private.

#1 Thank you, Being Fibro Mom, for welcoming me into your fold and sending me tips, product reccs, and fibro website links to add to my Fibro Reading blog page. How bizarro that we went to high school together for a year (it was a big school and I was a preoccupied senior but I bet our paths crossed at some point, frosh!) You are positive, on top of things, a busy mom, and an admirable warrior. Of course you are. We’re St. Andrew’s “Rocks” who #supportfibro!

#2 @simplylushlife, I’m so glad we talked for an hour the other day…we probably could’ve talked for a month! You’ve taken a very candid, proactive, fun, bright, and well-made up outlook on the life you’ve been given. To be contacted out of the blue and gifted a fabu paraben-free Beautycounter pen concealer is a dream come true. I’d been stressing for months about what I’d switch to when my booo-hiss paraben-containing concealer ran out, while also trying other brands but not liking them. Thank you so much for reaching out.

#3 KC, Merci for sitting on my couch and listening and teaching even though you’re allergic to cats, and for being caring and open about your beliefs as well as others’. It takes an amazing woman to make a phenomenal daughter like yours.

Words of kindness, redemption and magic gifted to Jennifer:

-I love this idea! You probably don’t know how many times in a day or a week I think of you and the example you set by your persistence and your vulnerability and your fierceness and your love. But you should know. It’s a lot. Especially when I’m feeling dark or desperately overwhelmed, I try to shake myself out of it and think, What would Jennifer do in this situation? What would her attitude be? What concrete action would she take? And that helps me refocus on what’s important to me, and put my energy in that direction. You have shown me how to do this since we met, and you’ve stayed true to it all this time. So thank you, unendingly, for teaching me. Oh LT, kindred spirits forever and a day

-“Love your body and your soul. Be gentle with yourself. You’ve been through a lot!!!” Thank you again, KC

-“You are magic, Jennifer. Don’t you forget it. You are spunky; You are fierce; You are gentle; You are strong; you are love and beauty. Most of my memories at your house are outside in the backyard! In the sunshine, green grass, some sort of climbing/hanging apparatus…” This was us 30+ years ago . Thank you, SBP.

-This past spring a stranger gave me hugs that brought me to tears and bought my ($2.40) breakfast at the doctor’s office. She saw my pain. It was a beautiful, sad moment, and so very New Orleans.

-“You are doing work that makes the world function — not just ‘makes the world a better place,’ what you are doing with your writing is what makes it a place that works at all.” Thank you again, LT

-“You’re the right mom for me. I’m glad you’re a stay-at-home mom.” ~Rosebud

-‘Every day I am amazed by how much you are able to do for your beautiful children. They are both so kind and thoughtful. I can tell that even though you are dealing with a lot of pain you are taking care our your family. Rosebud is ready to help anyone who is in even a little distress. She has learned that from you! Keep up the good work.” Thank you, Rosebud’s former PK teacher, Mrs. RR

Who will you Pay it Forward to? And How? I’d love to hear what you’re willing to share in the comments here, FB or Instagram! Go forth and spread good feelings.

2 thoughts on “Pay It Forward: Join the Compliment Chain!

  1. I love this idea! You probably don’t know how many times in a day or a week I think of you and the example you set by your persistence and your vulnerability and your fierceness and your love. But you should know. It’s a lot. Especially when I’m feeling dark or desperately overwhelmed, I try to shake myself out of it and think, What would Jennifer do in this situation? What would her attitude be? What concrete action would she take? And that helps me refocus on what’s important to me, and put my energy in that direction. You have shown me how to do this since we met, and you’ve stayed true to it all this time. So thank you, unendingly, for teaching me.

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